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How to have a wedding people actually want to attend

By Sara Jentsch

As a child of an Afghan mother and a German father (who doesn’t speak Dari), it was challenging for me to learn the language because I never heard my parents communicating in Dari. Growing up, I predominantly had German friends and attended a German school, which made it difficult for my mother to cultivate my brother’s and my interest in a culture we weren’t fully exposed to.

However, my mom always tried (and still tries) her best to expose us to Afghan culture as much as possible.

Aside from the mouthwatering food and the extended visits with relatives, my mother would often take us to weddings of people we had never heard of before. They were always somehow distantly related to someone who knew someone else connected to my mother—a complex web of relationships that somehow justified our attendance.

Anyway, since we were officially invited, we ended up attending multiple weddings—what felt like, and probably was the case—almost every weekend when I was a teenager.

Thinking of the German “classy” and “traditional” church or garden weddings, it’s hard to believe that anyone would willingly attend a wedding more than once every five years.

Apart from the bland décor and clothing choices, the atmosphere is just exhausting. Not to mention, the food should rather be considered more as part of the décor than something actually enjoyable to eat.

German weddings often feel like an “official process” where no one dares to move in a non-pleasant way or engage in conversations about interesting topics, especially with unfamiliar people. Even if they feel somewhat comfortable after a couple of drinks, watching them dance feels like a fever dream.

In contrast to that, Afghan weddings made me actually want to marry just so I could have a party like that myself.

Starting with the loud and exhilarating music that can be heard from the parking lot already, you are greeted by people who are genuinely excited to see you. Even if they don’t know you personally, you receive warm hugs and affectionate kisses in a welcoming and loving manner.

Entering the building, you are immediately overwhelmed by the colorful décor and the beautiful, vibrant dresses, gowns, and suits worn by the guests. The way they move and dance is wild and exciting yet smooth and elegant—it’s hard to explain, but it looks incredible. The chattering blends seamlessly with the music, and you can feel the good vibes and enjoyment of the evening.

I can’t even begin to describe how amazing it feels to randomly meet cousins my age, I haven’t seen in a while and enjoy the most delicious food with them. Piles of rice and Kabuli, multiple tasty and spicy sauces, fresh salads, and an array of dessert options make you forget about any diet plans you’ve ever had. The richness of flavors and the communal aspect of sharing these meals create unforgettable moments at Afghan weddings.

In conclusion, Afghan weddings offer a vibrant and joyful celebration that truly captivates the senses and fosters a sense of togetherness. The lively music, colorful atmosphere, and delicious cuisine create an experience that leaves a lasting impression. It’s a celebration where strangers feel like family, and where every moment is filled with warmth and excitement. Attending these weddings has not only connected me to my cultural roots but has also instilled in me a deep appreciation for the richness and hospitality of Afghan traditions.

Originally posted 2024-04-18 11:40:29.